You aren’t asking for advice so please forgive my presumption. Im a fat old queer with 3 kids and 3 grandchildren. When they ask to weigh you say no. when they put on a bad blood pressure cuff say this is a bad blood pressure cuff. If the tables too high say something. Refuse stuff. Stick up for yourself. It’s a great model for your daughter you’ll feel better too

Also, spend time visualizing not giving a fuck about what these people think they’re just human beings just like you Your daughter sounds adorable I would love it if some kid came up to me and told me that they had lice like they were happy about it, it’s hilarious. Hang in there work on not caring so much about what strangers think about you it really doesn’t make any difference it’s like that old saying by Missy Elliott can you pay my bills? if not then fuck off

I’m paraphrasing

Sending love and support to you and your daughter

Historically Curious, Queer, Aging, Anglophile, World traveler, lifetime researcher with a sarcastic bent