Seeing a lot of triggered white people in the comments. You can’t erase that element of the overall chemistry in the situation. Anyone who wants to deny that probably has no life experience of living in a multicultural setting.

And i can imagine the dynamics, my in laws, sadly deceased now, were similar high power professionals. I don’t think i would have had your courage, but i hope i would have.

Historically Curious, Queer, Aging, Anglophile, World traveler, lifetime researcher with a sarcastic bent