I read this twice and i still don’t understand what you’re getting at. Are you saying men should not be held accountable for childcare? Are you saying that women are claiming they are staying home with kids because they want to, but in reality they can’t find jobs? Are you implying that someone who just got a PhD can afford to not work (nobody is that privileged except the trust funded).
You’re a good writer and i read your article with interest but some basic clarity of your points is needed. Imo