I have an adult child who ghosted me. I am in my 60’s and haven’t seem my mother, who is living, since i was 12- her choice, so i see this from both ends. My mother and i stay in touch via text, my son is absolutely no contact. i
maintain normal relationships with my other children.
I still try to be gentle with my mom although i certainly can see that she has serious problems. I am willing to help her, as reasonable, if she ever asks.
I guess it seems a bit much to me to divorce a mother over a piano. To the point where she dies alone. Imo at some point a person can choose to show caring and love when it is needed most and not require anything in return. But i get that every body is different